According to a Queer Grrrl:True Bath House Stories
It’s a carved niche in the social sexual experience of all willing women and trans folk.
I am going tell you what happens at a bath house, with the most objective and generalized view. I enjoy the watching, the voyeur aspect that’s the sultry and more than erotically exotic. So, this is my exploration log, if you will, of all of my bath houses experiences, through out the years.
Make your own Dance floor.
DJ COZMIC CAT is a regular at the Pleasure Palace. She always spins some fine, heart felt tunes. She creates an energy with her music that spawns squeals of innate pleasure.
At Oasis Aqualonge all persons benefit from an outrageous stripper pole. The bumping and the grinding was down with everyone. Anyone can take it for a spin. On the dance floor, bodies, some nude, some with towels their waists. Some dressed only to tease, while other’s dressed to comfort. Person’s meeting old friends, or new ones. Many firsts happen as well. The number of times i have actually heard a person say “you will be my first” is un-countable as they are being dragged off the dance floor.
The hot tub.
This is a small room with faint lights and steam that hits the celing. Girl/Grrrl Friends, fellow fine female identified people, and Boy(i)friends surrounded by fellows who male identify all in the hot and steamy. There was a lot of laughter and and hard nipples. Red Cups held your drink, and a fresh white towel was within reach. It was also a place of contemplation. Seeing closed eyes, and quiet breathing with arms out reached.
O MY GOD! theres my X …!
Seeing an X is harsh enough, but in that environment, its crazier. When this happened to me, I just smiled and nodded. Its not easy to do, trust me. For me, going some where else in the club worked. She was an X for a reason. One of the advantages of this social sexual experience is to do only do what you want. If its right for you to go somewhere else, you can.
Jealously, doesn’t need to be a factor when people close to you having sex either with or without you. Regardless if the encounter is public or private, for some it’s like a burning heat inside your gut. This experience is a good place to examine if you can let that go.
Costumes and Leather
It not uncommon to see people in costumes. Through the years, I have seen more than one dressed as “The Butler,” complete with bow tie and bow. SIN-sational burlesque bottoms, covered in perfect feathers. Dresses with draped beading down salacious legs complete with stockings and too high heels. All persons of various sizes and abilities somehow know how to make their body shake sweetly with pure joy of being at such an event. It really is ok to look at more than just the menu. Anyone who walks through the doors can wear what is sexy to them.
The leather community was in full force. Their understanding of diversity and community was apparent, and seems to have grown in interest as the years came along. The smell of black leather nearest the dungeon. A mixture of hard core Leather Daddys, Tops, bottoms, and assorted curious people stand inside the dungeon, closest to the door. While others negotiating to get involved in a scene with players already playing. Some wearing leather vests and chaps over bare skin, while other’s most conservative and only wearing maybe one or two pieces and jeans. Those who were collared, dressed as they wish to please who they wear the collar for. While others presented their own interpretation on what being with this community means to them.
Inside, all manner of BDSM play . There are slaps of paddles, and licks from a whip. The sounds of “ooooooo” and “ahhhhhhh” are common. Breathe releasing sounds that seem to be measured by the whats being done to the willing. The occasional giggle becoming laughter can also echo. This dungeon, is HUGE. There is a distinct sharp pitch in the room when someone is being spanked.
The Ograsm Experts
From my very first bath house, so many years ago,there were many persons hauling large gear bags and suitcases. I have seen more than one strap on expert bring a WIDE variety of toys in literally, ALL shapes and sizes. My favourite sat in a slick harness, with the dildo pointed perfectly from the hip. It was a good 8 inches long, and two inches round. It had that comforting purple silicone haze.
All experts, make sure that there were plenty of condoms, cleaning spray and towels. And by the sounds that the expert made from the willing? Its a combination of guttural howl, and OMYGAWD .. and right – THERE! The Butt Play and Gspot experts are equally talented and are very safe with what they do. With all the absolute screams of pleasure in very high notes from these three rooms alone, I am surprised that roof is still there.
The Porn Room.
At this venue, a new room has opened up many awesome possibilities. Since the first event at the Oasis, this room sees a lot of heavy action. Person’s who like to do public sex in any number of ways. Singles and doubles, trios and groups. The porn is high quality, and yes, feels QUITE real. You will see genuine orgasms and real people having sex both on screen, and on the comfy couch.
A bit of privacy, please?
If privacy is what you require to “get your lovin on” you have some sweeter sexier choices than previous bath house events. Private “rooms” are constructed from heavy drapes hung from very sturdy poles, thus creating a perfect place for privacy. Thanks to the set up and take down crew, they are there for you each event.
Those sexy sounds the orgasm experts gave out, are starting to hit the rest of the club. People start to explore their orgasmic buddy they just hooked up with. Those whip licks, sexy music, the screams of absolute WOW when a person gives an orgasm. There are little nooks and crannies, places to check out along the way. A bath room stall might be perfect, if you don’t think you can wait for one of the private “rooms” to be ready. There are generally 5 available, with a 45 minute max time limit with each one.
Cant we just talk?
This is also a social experience as much as it’s a sexual one. Starting up conversations, being flirty and just relaxing and enjoying the lack of necessity of talk of the day’s events is very soothing in its own way. Sticking close to the each of the bars seemed to always bring similar minds together. The lighting in each room is drastic as it is ambiant.
The Oasis Aqualounge holds this separate event on the last Tuesday of the month. If you were not able to attend the past Pleasure Palace event, then you have this option. This is a sexy style event. It has made it’s unique mark in our community. It is definitively worth the admission just for the outdoor pool. When people came out if it when the weather was cold, their bodies were steaming.
And that, my fellow Queeriors and assorted peeps, is all I can tell you. I chose postitive deptiction over political correctness.
words by shona
updated : Oct 26th 2012