Ask Mica: TMI Moms

Sexual Renaissance Mom asks:

Hey Mica. Recently my mom has gone through a “sexual renaissance” but it’s getting to the point where I fear walking into her house without catching a glimpse of her (much younger) boyfriend’s ass. Can I say something to her or is it out of line? I just feel so grossed out by it, and it doesn’t help that her current lifestyle is discused in minutate detail with me daily (and I mean every day). She and my father got a divorce about 6 years ago and she hasn’t seen anyone since so I kind of feel bad saying anything. What do I do?

Mica says:

Hi SRM – I’m sorry for your loss. Every person fears the day that their parents want to go into extreme detail of their (ahem) personal life and cross the line between being strictly parents to becoming more like equals. There are some boundaries which are not meant to be crossed and the parental sex life is usually one of them.

That said, stop walking into your mom’s house uninvited! If you gave her a heads up when you were going over she probably would throw some clothes on herself and her man candy. And besides, maybe her younger man can hook you up with some of his friends. (But maybe not…that’s likely to end up feeling gross).

If her going into detail bothers you, tell her. She’s your mother, and seeing as she’s comfortable giving you all the dirty details, she’s likely to be just as comfortable having an open conversation about how you feel.

If it’s her TMI giving and the naked boy walking around that gives you the heeby jeebys, then it shouldn’t be a problem to tell her how you’re feeling. But if it’s her actual sexual renaissance that’s freaking you out, you may just need to get over this one on your own. It might just be a phase – and if it’s not, you’ll need to learn to deal with it.

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