Ask Mica: Back To S-cool
I’m going back to school after years off after highschool and I’m not looking forward to the social aspect of it. I’ll be entering the first year of my program which means I’ll be stuck in classes with 18 year olds (I’m 24). Any tips on how to bridge the gap during school projects/in-class issues when half these kids are bound to be immature? I already have a solid crew so I don’t care about making friends.
Older Not Old
Congrats on going back to school. Getting yourself edumacated is always a great choice. Gotta get those smarts ya’ll!
I think you’re looking at this the wrong way… instead of expecting your peers to be immature, go into this with an open mind. Remember, they are your peers (at least most of them are). You’re all there to learn and there’s nothing wrong with networking and meeting people. Now, “making friends” doesn’t mean you have to join Greek life, or the “18-year-old raver kid” club. It just means being willing to be nice to people even if they’re younger than you; age does not equal a lack of intelligence.
Consider joining groups that are geared towards your program, or towards your cultural/ethnic/etc group. Try to be accepting and tolerant of everyone. Remember, they’re younger than you and many of them are less secure in themselves and their adulthood, so they’re probably more worried about making friends than you are! Going to school offers you a chance to network not only with students but also people who are more likely to help you get a job after — your professors!! Use this time as an opportunity to get to know your teachers well. Many students stay far away from their profs. Use your confidence and maturity to chat with them, pick their brains and maybe even try to get hooked up helping them on their research projects. They carry the wisdom (most of the time), so make use of it. You are paying after all.
Happy back to s-cool!
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