Ask Mica: #TurkeyDumped

Dear Mica,

My boyfriend since grade 10 broke up with me this weekend.  I stayed in ON to go to school this  year while he moved to BC, so a bunch of my friends are calling this is the “Turkey Dump”. The thing is, he promised he isn’t with anyone else, but I don’t know if I should believe him. Can you please give me some advice to get over him? I’m crushed.

Love No More

Dear LNM,

I’m sorry to hear you and your lover have parted ways due to the dreaded Turkey Dump.

(For those of you who don’t know what this is click here for the casual description or here for a full “official” story).

To be honest, going to a new school is a huge change, especially if you’re leaving your first love, your family, your friends…you get the idea. Being lonely can lead to, ahem, finding ways not to be lonely.

Whether he broke up with you because he cheated or broke up with you because he’s changed, give him space (which shouldn’t be so hard seeing as he’s not as close to home). Don’t harass him, creep his facebook, send threatening messages to anyone who posts on his wall etc.

Give him the benefit of the doubt (you never know where life will take you in 2 months let alone 2 years) but realize that he’s young like you and living life; having experiences like this are part of being young – for BOTH of you, whether you like how your heart feels or not.

In the meantime, vent to your friends. When they get sick of you, vent to the internet.

When you feel better, you should go and meet some new boy toys. (But be safe and have fun).

And remember – everyone in the States still has another month to stress about this happening.

Having love/work/life problems yourself? Email askmica@pinkmafia.ca. In the meantime check out Young and Restless for more from Mica.