My boyfriend since grade 10 broke up with me this weekend. I stayed in ON to go to school this year while he moved to BC, so a bunch of my friends are calling this is the “Turkey Dump”. The thing is, he promised he isn’t with anyone else, but I don’t know if I should believe him. Can you please give me some advice to get over him? I’m crushed.
Love No More
I’m going back to school after years off after highschool and I’m not looking forward to the social aspect of it. I’ll be entering the first year of my program which means I’ll be stuck in classes with 18 year olds (I’m 24). Any tips on how to bridge the gap during school projects/in-class issues when half these kids are bound to be immature? I already have a solid crew so I don’t care about making friends.
Older Not Old
I recently quit my job for the company I’ve been working for after a long term of employment (I worked in the kitchen of a local hot spot). My bosses and I have been friends for a long time but now seem to hate me. I gave my two weeks notice to which I was told “not to bother coming in” and so now have 2 weeks until I start my next job. I HAD to quit the job (too many shifts and not enough money), but would like to keep a positive connection with them. Should I pursue keeping our friendship, or just let it go?
My girlfriend and her (male) cousin are very close and hang out all the time. We’ve been dating for a few months now so I’ve had more than ample time to get to know him – and get creeped out by him.
I feel like he’s undressing me with his eyes every time we hang out, and he’s constantly making sexual jokes about us because we’re lesbians. The joke thing is something I’m used to from friends, but not at all funny considering they’re related!! I’ve mentioned it to her and she just says “that’s his sense of humor.” I understand that they’re close but it freaks me out. Should I say something to him or just get used to his rude ways?
- Lost in Translation
My boyfriend of 3 years is a great cook – he can whip up a meal in 20 minutes that would put a number of local chefs to shame. He’s made pretty much every meal throughout our relationship…and I’m starting to feel bad. My mother never raised me to learn how to cook, she didn’t think it was necessary for men to know how (but my sister seemingly has the same ability as my bf). I lack creativity when it comes to food prep, so I need some easy tips. His birthday is this weekend and I want to impress him with my skills. What do I do?!
What’s Cookin’ Good Lookin’
My good friend and I have recently started to become more distanced. I’m super busy and have a lot on the go (and she’s the same way). I want to stay friends with her but I’m not sure how to go about doing it when I can barely make time for family! My schedule isn’t very flexible and she doesn’t seem to want to make an effort to see me either. We haven’t always seen eye to eye (especially as of late) so I’m not even sure if this friendship can work going forward. Help!
My girlfriend of a few years is super awesome; she has a full time job, volunteers, hangs out with me and my friends, knits, reads and is a great in the bedroom. The only problem is that she and I are saving to get a place together and she can’t seem to save money. At all. Which would make sense if she didn’t have a job or had a lot of expenses but she doesn’t. We both still live at home, she doesn’t shop much and her dad still pays for a lot of things for her. I’m living on my own, pay for myself and still manage to sock away a few hundred for a deposit every month. What do I do to knock some sense into her?!
No Money Honey
My brother is planning a huge camping trip with his buddies to celebrate his birthday in July and he’s invited me to come along. The only problem is…I hate camping. I’d tell him I was too busy but we only just became friendly again in the past few months (we didn’t talk for years). Meaning, I can’t get out of it. They go camping every year for his birthday and it’s the first time they’ve invited me so it means a lot to them. What do I do?
City Girl Forever
Dear Ask Mica,
I’m a recent grad and have finally returned home from school (4 years away could not have ended sooner). I’m trying to get myself set up with employment. I’ve applied at a number of corporate/more formal companies and therefore I need to look the part. My main problem is that I’m on a limited budget. I’ve taken a part time job until I find something permanent, but I need to look top notch to get these jobs!
Well Dressed and Underfunded
I’ve been besties with my friend since we were little kids and we’ve agreed on everything. But lately, her appreciation of Rob Ford’s policies is starting to dominate every conversation and I just want to punch her in the face (let’s just say he’s not my faveourite). It’s usually ended in a fight and us sitting angrily until the other pours a glass or two of wine. Ideas on how I can either make it clear to her that I think he sucks and/or just stop talking about him in general?
Dear Mica, My boyfriend and I have have been together for almost a year and recently started living together. Our relationship is great – save for the fact that he’s a total slob and doesn’t put the toilet seat down. He also has a cat – this wouldn’t be an issue except for the fact that I’m pretty damn allergic. We’ve tried everything: Reactin, herbal remedies at home etc. and nothing has worked. I love him and I don’t want him to get rid of the cat – it would break his heart. But I also can’t breathe whenever I’m at home! Ideas? An Allergic Lover